BALANCING MOMMY LIFE & ENTREPRENEURSHIP

It's been almost 2 years as a mother & entrepreneur, so I have some skin in the game lol. The balancing of so many different parts of yourself IS a challenge but what we get to show our kids is that, we are persistent and that we CAN do anything through Christ & with will & determination.

Advocate Time For Passions & Me Time

I feel as though this will always be something that has to be consistently balanced. In one aspect, what this looks like to me, is having time to blog or read, or watch a good show. In another aspect, ,it was coming to a decision & saying I want to work. Advocating time for you and passion and time will vary with every single person but the main idea is not getting so lost in being a mother that you don’t do things for you until you’re burnt out.

Use Help & Don't Feel Guilty  

I understand that everyone circumstances are different, but it is so hard to ask for help for some reason. Even when people offer it. I truly don’t know what that is. However, I realized trying to raise children, without a village is extremely challenging. 

I do have to acknowledge that there is stigma around, expecting partners/men to help. And this is just my unpopular opinion but what I have to say about that is, it is extremely crucial to have a conversation, before you have kids and discuss what is expected from each other because what we have to understand is everyone is raised differently, and the success of your relationship/ marriage/ parenthood is based on what you decide and once your decisions are made, you stand on it. You stand on it because you will receive opinions and it’s easy to get swayed. I will never forget, my mother in law said to me, "Every mother is different & has their own threshold, and their own strengths & weaknesses but you are still the best mom to / for your children". This encouraged me cause I'm surrounded by mothers who do and handle soooo much & I just felt like I wasn't enough but she told me, the only expectation I need to meet is being the best mom I can be & sometimes that's the help that is needed, simple encouragement. Buttttttt I mean a break will absolutely mean alot too! Lol.

Get Organized 

I feel like this is an underrated tip, but literally having routine, preparing things before hand, organizing apps, they help so much. I’ll recommend a few apps / project management tools that I’ve used and currently used to stay organized. These apps help to schedule tasks, keep ideas together, make lists, keep a calendar, etc. all in one place. And then you always have your reminder app and iCloud or Google calendar. THIS will help you feel like things are less cluttered in your mind, and like your life is in constant whirlwind. The apps I recommend are 

1. Maple - Free | Pro plan available 

2. Asana - Free | Pro plan available 

3. Basecamp - $15 Monthly Fee

4. Structured - $7 a year

5. Google Calander - Free

6. Reminders - Free

Take Care Of Yourself  

I literally said this in my last episode / blog. It is ESSENTIAL to take care of you, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Nothing is too small to care about, if it’s important to you, make it a priority. I don’t care if it’s going to get your nails done, getting your hair done, getting an outfit, or not spending money at all, but just spending an hour with yourself, and reading a book. As an entrepreneur, wife, and / or mom, it’s important to prioritize growth, and nurturing our confidence! 

Find Mom Friends

I have found that it makes so much of a difference when surrounding yourself with people in the same season as you. I’ve also realized, these opportunities don’t just come to you, we are in control of our lives & have to make an effort to surround ourselves with the things you desire or need. Some of the things I’ve done to make mom friends is join Facebook & IG communities that I resonate with, like @momsactually, and I dmd women that I followed that were new moms & shot my mom friend shot 😂 & in reference to searching for groups, it’s really as simple as searching “mom of two” or “moms in (location)” on Facebook. Another way I’ve reached out to other moms is through my church. For those that don’t know me, I am apart of the first family at church, meaning I married the pastor’s son, so there was no question about looking there but what I’ve find is there are moms in all different seasons, new moms, empty nesters, toddler moms, etc. Lastly, if you can’t find a group that fits yours, that may be your sign to create one!